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'We bought what we could afford' Niro Thambipillay, 40, lives with his wife Abi and two young sons in an apartment in Pymble. “We chose the area first and then bought what we could afford,” Thambipillay says. “If we want a house for a similar price, we’d have to move a lot further away.” Niro Thambipillay and sons Sathyan, 5, and Shivan, 2, at their apartment in His wife’s ability to commute to her job in the CBD was a key part of that decision – it is already 45 minutes each way from Pymble by train four days a week. Sathyan, 5, attends the local public school, and Shivan, 2, goes to childcare or is sometimes watched by grandparents. Thambipillay is happy with the school and believes the local public high school is good too. Thambipillay runs Family Focused Fathers, a consulting and coaching business helping men and fathers overcome problems regarding self-doubt, stress and work-life balance. He also consults on property investment. “The biggest challenge for men right now is the work-family conflict,” he says. “There’s longer hours at work, there’s longer commutes involved. They’re just not spending the time they want to with their kids. “My role is to show them how to make the best of their limited time with their kids. After that, it’s seeing if they can make some geographical or career changes, but that’s not always feasible, especially in Sydney.” Thambipillay says his wife would love to be a stay-at-home mother especially right now while the boys are young, but that was not financially possible for the family. Instead, she works part-time and Thambipillay has tailored his own work around the family’s needs. In what he describes as “a balancing act”, a typical day in their household sees Thambipillay start work late, spending the morning with his sons before going to his office in nearby Gordon. The late starts mean late finishes sometimes. “There are some evenings that I don’t even get to see the boys, but that’s the trade-off.”
