Marriage Seperation Question

That’s exactly what I’ve been saying to her it’s such a tough situation and I know it’s only going to get worse.

 

Often superannuation is the greatest family asset.
Legal advice essential.

 

Firstly, by Aus law, she can't agree to any sort of financial settlement without independent legal advice, he needs to be aware of this.
Second, if he is the gambler then the house could be repossessed long before she ever see's the $75k. Lets face it, who earns $300k a year has 3 kids in a relationship (= 4+ years together min) and only has the ability to redraw $100k to pay her out today ?????
She really needs to file to have him removed from the house due to emotional and mental abuse, she needs to stay in the home (or it's likely he will blow it all), she also needs to have all bank account balances stated and a freeze on any redraw or loans against any property or other where she is liable.
So many issue's here

 

Agreed, first step is to identify all the assets, liabilities and superannuation interests that form the "property" pool

Once current assets are listed and contributions are measured, future financial circumstances are taken into account i.e. children earning capacity etc

Can get messy if both parties wont agree

 

I thought Id offer you guys an update. We managed to encourage my friend to not accept the offer and to seek legal representation. She was hesitant but things escalated to the point where police became involved and an emergency DVO has been placed. The house is going on the market today and hopefully it sells without too much trouble.

 

great news, hope your friend walks away from the living hell and have a normal peaceful life back again...

 

Sorry @VanillaSlice but Bruce & Demi are the 0.000001% that "appear" to get along (emphasis on appear, as I bet there's been a few expletives thrown around ).

We are all only sold the love fairytale, no one ever tells you about the divorce disaster

It is unlikely to end in their lifetimes.....
They have to continue to see and suffer each other forever due to having children
She will suck it up, even at her own detriment (happiness) for the sake of the kids.
He is likely to continue to threatenand intimidate her (with legal action for settlement and custody issues) until long after the kids are 18.

The system doesn't help, allowing daddy rights and access (there's some people who shouldn't be able /allowed to procreate ).

This goes both ways people, I've seen people paying child support having to go and spend hundreds on new clothes/shoe's on "their weekend" only for the ex to return them to the shop on Monday for the CASH (15 years ago admittedly), and others that happily buy clothes, lessons, tuition, and many other things (as the child support was spent at Dan's ).


My partners ex threatened to blow my head off early on, even though he ran off with her friend from high school she'd been banned from seeing for 16 years

He made his choice to leave, and I suck it up and offer him a beer when he comes over to see his kids or grandchild (or sometimes I just hide), unfortunately it usually goes pear shaped as we have late model car's and a big house in a great spot with views, he gets jealous and feels that she should be below him (in housing) and undoubtedly say's something out of spite or anger or regret for dumping (one of the best women walking this earth ).

Being able to move on isn't easy. The husband gets on a dating site, the stay at home doesn't want to put the kids thru attachment issue's and stays single

DON'T HAVE KIDS, "EVER"! but should you feel so compelled just have one child with someone you already hate, that way you each will have every second weekend kid free to remember how single life being selfish was so awesome

Ultimately it is the kids that always suffer