Children helping parents out Following up on my post regarding Parents Helping Children (see here), sometimes its the adult children that need to help the parents. What to consider? Asset protection Death Incapacity Divorce of the child Social Security Interest rates limitations Act Reverse mortgage etc Just briefly, where a child wants to help a parent this must be carefully thought out and planned to minimise risks. Case study Dad has died and Mum is living alone in a big house. her only source of income is the pension, but the costs of the house and general living expenses are not enough. There is plenty of equity though. Mum has 3 kids (adults). 1 Kid wants to help out, the second kid doesn’t, the 3 wants to but can’t afford it. Mum is contemplating selling the house and buying a smaller home. Trouble with this is mum may have to move to a different area to afford something. Stamp duty, legals and agents fees would be involved. Children would not get to inherit the family property with good growth potential. There could be social security issues with the pension being reduced if the sale means mum is left with too much cash. If child A helps mum by giving her say $500 per week and mum dies the house will likely go to all 3 children in equal shares. Child A has ‘lost’ her money. Mum could get a reverse mortgage on the house. But the rates are high and this could be costly and it is also potentially risky as any default could mean the property is sold. Child B could employ mum on his business. Mum could earn a small amount of money so that it supplements her pension without it affecting the pension. But this is a lot of mucking around and mum may not be up to it. Another solution is all children chip in equal amounts of money each week. Hard to organise and one will surely miss payments here and there. Perhaps the best solution could be for the ‘richer’ child to simply loan mum the money. She could pay mum amounts each week, enter mum’s bank account, after they both enter into a written loan agreement. When mum dies mum will still owe this money to the child and this will be paid out of the estate before the remainder is divided up in equal shares. Interest could be payable, but the child will have to pay tax on the income so it may be better at no interest. The other children are likely to kick up a stink when the estate is distributed so mum should seek legal advice and an evidentiary trail should be established to prove the loan and the payments of money. It can be good to discuss this with everyone before the payments start so that everyone knows about it and there are no surprises.