What's a bigger commitment. House or Marriage?

You can't (well shouldn't) have more than one marriage,
You can have many homes.
One is a commitment to your partner for life, the other is a roof over your head or an investment play.
Big difference.
It's a shame society is decreasingly valuing the commitment of marriage. It's been one of the best decisions of my life by a long way.

 

Pretty sure he is talking about the act of buying a house with someone is a sign of commitment to the person you buy the house with, not any old random property showing commitment to the house like some seem to be replying to?

I'm with my long term partner, first sign was moving in together, second getting a dog, then we bought a house together and now have a 3 month old. Both of us happily unmarried. Sharing finances is a bigger commitment than signing a piece of paper. A married couple with no shared financial responsibilities can split pretty easily.

 

Getting married is not a requirement for a successful relationship.

However marriage is easily a bigger emotional commitment than to buy a house. The act of marriage is a public sign of commitment in front of family friends (and in many cases - God).

A house is the acquisition of asset.

Getting married was easily one of my best decisions (second to asking my now wife if she would like a drink at Steve's Nedlands).

 

Would you consider him an asset or liability? Hehe.

 

The act of getting married itself doesn't hold much value to us. the commitment and relationship to each other are more important than one made for buying a house. We move houses all the time...

 

Ofcourse, relationship/marriage is more valuable than buying a house.

You would be able to live happily and in peace with a partner even in shacks. It would not seem that bad but image living alone in a big mansion.

As the saying goes, No man is an island.

 

That's what I tell my partner when we live in dumps that need renovating

 

In our culture it says: "One shanty, two golden hearts" - is enough for happiness.

 

Definitely a marriage, have to be more careful paying attention to houses when you should be focusing on the important people in your life.

 

As do husbands with less of the house that they started with.

When the bust up happens the possessions often take priority over the relationship or kids so you have to wonder what actually is important to a person. Self interest of whatever kind is the driver in establishing relationships having kids and buying houses you wouldn't do any of them if you didn't think you would get something out of it.

 

I have gone 50/50 on a couple of houses. I didn't really think it was that much of a commitment. It's easy to sell a house to get out of the "relationship" if things go wrong. Conversely, I find marriage a huge commitment. I have sold a house I was in for 50/50. It was easy and profitable. I have seen people get divorced. It was not easy and it was not profitable.

 

For me:

• Built new house 5 years ago - everything working, no maintenance required, cost very little to keep, ...
• Married 36 years ago - (you work it out)

 

Can't compare Apple's and Oranges............
Some people may have a married that doesn't require much effort and therefore these people might not see it to be as big of a commitment as others.
There are also people that think the most important thing in this world is money and therefore they may see having a portfolio is a bigger commitment.

 

House is property. Human beings aren't.

 

Marriage.

I've bought and sold over a dozen joints so far, and managed to progress financially each time from each transaction.

Try that with 12 ex-wives. (or husbands).

 

A more relevant question would be:
What's a bigger commitment. House or Job / Career?

 

House....

 

if you add up the cost of all the $25 smashed avo and $5 coffees sydneysiders have on a daily basis, it surpasses all three on your list.

 

Both are a choice, both can be dissolved at any moment, also by choice.

Since you are comparing here is a great scenario, what if marriage or relationships were revalued to suit personal growth just like you refinace a property when there has been some equity built in.

If there is no personal growth (better together than apart), then it's like buying a lemon - it becomes nothing but a liability that you are paying into. In this case, commitment is useless.

 

I have seen three variations of this:
1) neither grow
2) one grows but the other doesn't
3) both grow

2 is probably the toughest for a couple because that's when they tend to grow apart.