Has anyone had or have neighbourly issues? We have a usually nice neighbour to our weekender block but he doesn't like us being there. He d rather we don't visit it. How do we continue to use it (caravan, self composting loo, outdoor cooking etc) and avoid his remarks: "When are you going home" "Haven't you got a home" "Oh I wasn't expecting you to be here this early" Etc
Food normally works… take him a plate of whatever your cooking during your next visit. Or invite him over for drinks.
Personally I would avoid talking to him. Bit more context will help like whats the set up? Is this like a rural weekend getaway block acerage? Is it a small seaside getaway?
Seaside And with this housing market now most blocks have gone from shack to GJ Gardner homes or the like. But mine is v tidy.
How long have you had the block? Has your family got bigger in that time? Or are you inviting more people down with you? Is it what he can see or what he can hear from your block that is disturbing him? Has the neighbour’s attitude changed slowly over time - from neutral/positive to negative?
I also would be interested in the dynamics of your two blocks. Does he have new builds popping up and yours is the last one not developed? If so, perhaps he feels like the block is almost "his" when you are not there, as a buffer between him and the new builds? Is the way you use your block allowed by council? If so, I'd invite him over for a BBQ meal and if that doesn't make things any smoother, I'd ignore him. At least that way, you've tried. And if you are doing nothing that is "questionable" (ie. camping on a suburban block) then he can go whistle.
People get funny about "territory" - I suspect, because it's vacant the majority of the time, the guy next door considers it his open space and, hence, gets twitchy when someone is in "his space". Have built on new blocks, one does get used to having empty space next door if it's for a couple of years - and it does feel somewhat claustrophobic when something goes up and/or someone moves in ... even felt strange on our 10 acres when the neighbours built on their 10 acres because, suddenly, there was this house in the view (lovely people btw)
Does he have a big Aussie flag in his front yard or on the fence? I have found that overt nationalism seems to be associated with irrational beliefs and behaviour.
Yeah cash crops. The neighbour is akin to the swooping magpie that's protecting his space. He should be calmer after harvest time around the time of the autumn equinox.
Wanna swap Bought a lovely place, even spoke to various neighbors that were home over two visits/6 hours I spent out the front/inspecting. Little did I know the 2x2br units next door are Govco owned and operated by a (bloody hopeless) care organization. In the last 6 months the guy in the rear unit who has 24/7 (cough bull*#!7) yells and screams swearing and cursing at full volume up to 25 times a day (he's done this while we've had the police here for complaints and welfare checks), he mutters most of the time loud enough that we can hear him inside, he hacks and spits regularly (yet behaves without any of this when being escorted at the shops), the organization has contractors on call to make repairs (broken doors windows, and he regularly kicks in fence pailings, twice we've had to endure pornography playing at full volume with the unit windows open and he's set the place on fire once (it's been renovated twice in 6 months ) and he isn't allowed female carers (seems to be very touchy feely) and I've caught him in another neighbors back yard on dusk He isn't allowed out unsupervised, has 24/7 care, care programs, a behavioral specialist, taken out daily for activities, gets litterally everything done for him, gets an allowance, gets cigarettes and apparently porn We estimate "he" costs the system $13,000 in carer wages per week Add in the building, building repairs, rates, water, electricity, food, vehicles, laundry, clothes, money allowance, smokes, various therapists, daily excursions, management and administrative costs and some "PROFIT for the organization it'd have to be over $250,000 pa for ONE individual to "Have a life" (all when he is happy to sit facing a wall smoking all day, only getting up to urinate on the veranda next to where his chair is ). All efforts to improve his and our life through meetings with the care organisation, the police, contacting NDIS, contacting our local MP, have only resulted in him being heavily medicated to a dribbling mess on occasion........ This is the NDIS at work I've resorted to yelling back now (It doesn't work, but it keeps me busy )
Angry bogan neighbours suck, but angry upper middle class neighbours can suck in their own way. I've found little correlation between wealth and annoyance, the only difference being how they express their annoyance. I've always lived in "nice" suburbs, and have seen a few annoying neighbours, many with highly respectable/well-paid jobs. I'm usually younger than them, which can sometimes lead to them getting a bit pushy because they think I'm too inexperienced to hold my ground. My favourite kind of neighbours are Asian/South Asian immigrant families, and retired couples with active hobbies.
