Is love enough?

A group of friends and I were having this random conversation and it led to some interesting discussions.

What's your view on this? Is it all you need to make a relationship work long term, or is there much more to it?

 

yes it’s more than enough. We had a lot of ups and downs in last 20 years.. I will go through this journey again with the same person through thick and thin

 

Well you got to work on it and it’s not cheap. Otherwise it deteriorates.

I know with the commodores I’ve owned that the the ones that lasted were the ones I spent the time washing polishing and doing the minor repairs.

You know the saying “a stitch in time saves nine”.

 

Love, and respect, and compromise, and respect, and consideration for the other person, and respect, and attitude, and learning to adapt, and respect, and consideration, and kindness and grace and humility and and .....forgiveness, and recognising our our imperfections, and honesty, and integrity, and and....

 

Love, love, love this answer.

 

Love is the stuff of fairytales and movies. For a long term relationship I think you need compatibility, trust and plenty of effort. Plus a bit of love.

 

A quantum of solace is mentioned in Ian Fleming's 'For Your Eyes Only'. It's a debate Bond had with an ambassador at a party about relationships and when they break down and at what moment there's no hope

Once that hope is gone there is nothing left. The quantum of solace is that last little bit of comfort when even at the darkest time in a relationship you look at the other person and say you still love each other. Once this has gone it's easy for hate and bitterness to seep in when half your assets disappear in a divorce (male/female)

 

I bet Mrs D takes herself off to get detailed, polished and serviced regularly too.

 

Seriously, dont we need more options

Love is enough…… if….. xyz

 

That would be option 2.

 

Oh yeah. She was meticulous. In the end she meticulously took me to the cleaners.

 

When I saw my Ballarat IP it was love at first sight. I ignored all the advice about not letting heart lead head. Ten years on we're still together, no regrets.

 

ok so not going to make it interesting

Shall we add to this

Sure I am option 2, but majority is something like 90% its a no brainer??? Why I say we should add something to this poll … just my opinion

 

There is no such thing.

If you think there is give it a clear definition.

 

I'm happy to ask simon to add more options. Any more options you'd like to add?

 

so she took the wheels off your Commodore and relationship

Speaking of Love
It wasn't due to polyamory claims was it
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^^^ that cosplay looks interesting lol.

 

Firstly I've been married almost 22 years and I'm quite happy about that. We've had challenges but without kids my wife is the most important aspect of my life.

Looking back on my life I previously dated a modest number of young ladies. Can say that I definitely loved two of them, I married the second one (have actually reconnected with the first, she and her family are now close friends).

There was a few others where it was fun to be with them and eventually those relationships ran their course and ended

I can also think of another two ladies that I could have loved, but I recognised that there were imcompadabilities in the relationship that I wouldn't have been able to easily overcome. I ended those relationships early because I could ultimately see it ending and being heartbroken about it.

Then there's a couple of women I know who I've found quite desireable. Were I single; but I'm not. So they're just aquantences or friends. Getting to know them better, there's no way I could live with them regardless of how attractive they are.

Love expands and contracts from over time. Understanding your compadabilities, incompadabilities, common goals, what you can live with and what you can't live without are the really important things in a long term partnership.

 

@Sackie, I will vote on your poll when I find LOVE

 

You found me. Be content.