I'm over this "adulting" thing

Thanks for sharing, I didn’t know the history behind chemo.

It goes to show we have a lot to be thankful for.

 

Exactly how I approach each day.
When bad things happen, hit the reset button.

Saved my brotherinlaw from a world of misery when my sister died of cancer.
Told him the day of the funeral he has to hit that reset button and get on with life as it will not stop because someone died.
Also told him he's good looking and a nice fella and if any other woman approached him he should not feel guilty and go with whatever comes his way.
He got a bit offended but quickly realised I am who he called a person who calls a spade a dirty big shovel.
No piddling around, get on with it.
Months later he's hooked up with another lady and very happy.

Cry when crying takes over your emotion. It soon passes. Then smile when you feel happy and don't feel guilty about it.

Lizzie, I think you have too much going on at once.
Time to take each day a bit easier, less workload, more play and rest.
Life is, after all, too short.

 

That is true @Phar Lap. When Iost my dad to cancer I thought about what he would want. Would he want me crying all the time, feeling hopeless and giving up on life? Or would he want me to get on with my life, laugh and joke when I felt like it and have a quiet cry if I need to. I know he wanted the latter and that helped me get through it. He was a huge joker and massive tease though. Even in the week before he died while he was stuck in bed and feeling his life slipping away, I was still cracking jokes with him and he was giving me high fives. That was being true to who he was and it is how he wanted us to be. Up until the end he was celebrating his life. He had a great life, so why not celebrate? I agreed with him. He wanted his final weeks to be fun, not miserable.

 

Yeah, thats the way I reckon. A person shouldnt have to change because they are dying.
We all know we are going to die.....dont we??? LOL.

Celebrate the life, exactly!
Whether its yours or someone elses life, celebrate it. Dont focus on the down/negatives etc.
Focus on the positives, that glass half full.
Its just a choice, 50/50 choice....what'll it be eh?
Empty or FULL !

 

Life is full of "problems" and once we solve one or several a new set is created from the same problems we solved or a whole new bunch just seem to arrive on our doorstep.

The best outcome we can hope for is the problems get "better" meaning when we solve the the ROI is increased so we can have strength to tackle the new ones.

Listened to a great little audiobook over the easter break by Mark Manson called "The subtle art of not giving a **** - https://www.audible.com.au/pd/Healt...Art-of-Not-Giving-a-F-ck-Audiobook/B01L790CUU

I found the concepts in regards to problem solving very helpful.

 

When I want good garlic, I go for a drive for 3 hrs to Lizzies place and buy it from her.
She exclaims that is a long way to do just that !
My reply is always, "I like good garlic and like a drive".
We have a good convo and then go our ways again.

Easy!

Time to go for a drive Liz....

 

I think the guts of what makes adulting tiring is running out of high-ROI problems and realising you're spending energy doing low-ROI ones.

 

Ahh that is what outsourcing is for

 

He he, yeah.
"Take this worry for me please and put it in the "completed" file please.

 

Outsourcing household chores I can see, but I want a personal assistant that can also rebalance my investment portfolio, get some landscape designs drafted, ebay my old scooters, organise a party etc etc.

Sounds ridiculous, right? Then I realised this is actually a thing...

 

My old man was very religious and he would say that “God deals out problems to match one’s intelligence, one’s ability to solve them”.

In other words, intelligent people were hit with the big problems and dumb ****s were given the little ones.

Always inspired me to tackle all the problems on my plate with gusto .

 

I like it. But then there are somedays I wish someone would die.

 

... what is often overlooked is that - half empty or half full - the glass is refillable

xx

 

Good point actually!

 

Wine.....chocolate.....Are boys invited too...? Otherwise I can rent a dress and call me Louise.

 

Haven't you just been on a holiday?

 

You are always welcome Leo.

 

And leave my Bondi bubble? no...too scary.

 

Here you go Lizzie a new cocktail (for us) that we enjoyed on our recent cruise. Very refreshing and oh so potent.

Cranberry St. Germain Cocktail