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  1. dabbler

    dabbler Well-Known Member

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    Ha ha......

    As for parents and kids, we have this nanny state now, there is little respect any more.....they need Kimball

     
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    Because we now live in an age where personal responsibility doesn't exist, it can't possibly be a failing on the parent's behalf and therefore not their responsibility to fix it, I mean it's not like parents invest more energy into being mates with their kids these days than they do actually being a parent :).
     
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    I wonder if they were pumped for information
     
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    It's like a slicker version of your Myspace account.
     
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    It's amazing how many parents really have no idea what technology their kids are using - either appropriately, or otherwise. When they find out that their little treasure has been up to no good, they have no idea how to stop (or educate) the child, because they don't understand what it is, does, or how to 'deactivate' it. I once had a parent ask me if I could "take the internet off" their child's laptop! :eek:

    So, as teachers who spend all day with their children, they think we have the knowledge, and therefore the ability, to intervene and 'fix the problem'. Just like the parents, some teachers can and some teachers can't……...
     
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    Couldn't agree with you more - kids are given an lot of freedom, but not held accountable or responsible for their actions. And whenever the kids mess up, it's someone else's fault.

    I once had a teenage male student rock back on his chair, lift his shift up to his chin, and then proceed to tweak his nipples, while saying "come on Miss, you know you want me". Thankfully, I'm pretty thick-skinned, and just totally ignored it (he was a total twat).

    But when I reported this incident, and his generally-inappropriate behaviour, to his mother, her only response was "Clearly, you have a personality conflict with him - you haven't gone out of your way to develop a good report with him". o_O It's a joke.
     
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    It's not like parents today didn't grow up with computers - there's no excuse for not understanding/being in touch with the technology (even on a basic level). There aren't too many jobs which don't require some interaction (even down to using a smart phone for text).
     
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    When my wife and me first went to the interview to see if we could get our first daughter into a inner southside private school long time ago, everyone was well dressed waiting outside the main office,i'm in my work clothes wife in the final stages of 4th pregnancy,maybe everyone by the look they gave us thought low class bogan with a Asian wife ,so our turn comes up we walk in,very good non judge mental high class Lady,and the only thing that stuck in my mind from that was from what the Lady told us ,"Don't come back in 7 years and tell me we have not done our job the job is up too you",and i never did..
     
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    This is the assumptions I never understand.
    Student in my days gone out of their way not to be "found out" doing mischief by teachers - false assumption to think that the teacher know more.
    And hang on, my home room teacher has about 40 kids per class, and also taught his subject to other 10 classes with 40 children in it o_O

    :eek: I'd get reprimanded harshly by my parents. What is happening in the school here?? :(

    Isn't it already happening from years ago?
     
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    I once met someone at an open for inspection! That's the way.
    We went out for coffee straight after inspection (to research the local area, of course). We decided neither of us would buy the place, but would go out again mid week for a drink!
     
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    I was going to say exactly this.
     
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    There will be a major resurgence in STDs (edit: there already is) and likely HIV/AIDs. I also foresee a time when people take value again in sexual intimacy and withdraw their willingness. Weren't the 70s all about sexual liberation... then conservatism... it's all hanging out again now. STDs will flare up, people will become tired of the hollow existence that is a never-ending supply of attractive (or at least comparable) people to (be) intimate with, and the cycle will restart.

    But yes. I worry too. Mostly about porn and my kids exposure to it.

    My friend only this week photographed some deviant watching porn whilst at lunch, in a busy food court, in his work uniform. Unfortunately I couldn't read the logo or I would have reported him myself.
     
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    LOL hilarious :D:D:D
     
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    I hold my children accountable for their online time, because we sit together at dinner time and talk, and I take note of what my children are doing online. I notice their frustrations and notice when they are too self involved in their technology. And we talk about the dangers that they could confront online. And we talk when they are upset about something that has happened to them online.

    It isn't the internet that is a danger to our children.........or our lack of knowledge of technology.

    It doesn't matter the medium.........what matters is our relationship with our children, and them knowing that they can trust us enough to tell us parents what is happening in their lives without them fearing punishment or judgement.
     
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    A first year student got kicked out of uni for watching porn in a lecture with 500 students. He didn't realise that there were around 50 TAs sitting in the back row.
     
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    Just a few days ago, hubby and I had a conversation with our 3 boys about porn. We told them that as they got older, it was natural for them to be curious and while we wouldn't be happy with them viewing it, we understood that we couldn't stop them.

    We also spoke to them about real relationships vs porn.

    We talk to them about what is a healthy respective relationship. We encourage them to ask us questions.

    I may be a non traditional mum......but I would rather know what is happening in my children's lives and them knowing that they don't have to be afraid to discuss anything.......than them viewing porn and thinking that what they are seeing is ok or how to treat someone they care about.
     
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    Honestly, I'm very glad that my mother never spoke to me about any of this stuff.
     
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    Most public discourse about porn and teens is centred around a Maude Flanders 'won't someone think of the children' approach, with evil online porn lurking at every link. Was there no VHS porn? Hefner mags?
     
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    No - I don't think I am shadow dancing ghosts. The first time I caught my youngest, he had been clicking onto porn ads from his gaming sites, he was about 7-8. I could have banned him from gaming. Instead, I decided to chat with my children instead. There is no point in being heavy handed cause they will do it without my knowledge, behind my back. I would rather be upfront.

    Whenever they have questions, I answer.

    Shadow dancing ghosts......is to pretend your kids aren't curious and to ignore their questions.
     
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