Get a life coach ? Who has one?

I thought about getting a life/business coach this year - turned out I was just bored because I was at home too much. It’s amazing how getting out of the house and around people can change your view of the world! And learning something new also helps.

 

Nice post Rolf .

I'm a bit of a Jim Rohn fan from way back . There is a heap of his material on you tube and a lot of it is timeless . He died back in 2009 but still has a strong following. Ive listened to much of his material many times . I really don't know of a business philosopher quite like him.

 

Jim Rohn touched me the most.

Listened to a set of cassette tapes in my early working years when driving to worksites all over Sydney doing labouring jobs.
I listened to those tapes over and over and over until the principals he preached were permanently fixed in my mind.

I still recite his quotes in my head when facing a challenge such as:

• Don’t wish things were easier, wish you were better.
• Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.

And this is one that most people don’t get:

• Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.

 

For those who dont want to pay for a Life Coach, you can also see a Psychologist that specialises in motivation .

You can use the cheaper option by getting 6 or 7 visits under Medicare if you get a referral from your GP

 

What is a 'Life Coach'?

To me, it is someone that can guide you through ALL the challenges that you face in your life. For a life coach to be successful, they would need to not only have the experience and skills to do this, but also the empathy & social skills to match.

This^^^

I know someone who went to a psychologist as they were depressed at the time. They were happily married for many years with a couple of kids, working in a stressful job. The psychologist told them they needed a new start to their life. They should leave their partner, kids & job and start over.

It's another of those jobs working in people's private lives that, in the wrong hands can do more harm than good.

I'm sure there are some good life coaches and psychologists out there, but you really need to be careful of who you listen to.

 

Google and YouTube have all the answers to life, instantly and free, it’s all been done before.
You just need to ask a better question to get a better answer.

 

I agree with both of you. Some of this coaching is useful, but there is a wealth of material freely available on the Internet which is very good. And as you say Rolf, the motivation and call to action must come from within.

 

Also, as the person in this video says ‘find what you love’ has its limits. A lot to be said for finding what you are really good at.

 

Hey Rolf, I holiday in GC every year with the family. Been coming up from Melbourne every year for the last 20 odd years (pre and post kids). Main beach and Surfers are my favourite spots. If you have the time, would love to buy you a coffee (that is a Melbourne thing) or equivalent when I am next up there. Love your insights and outlook. All the best for now.

 

What Jim Rohn and Les Brown stand for is the biggest piece of the puzzle missed for most people trying to achieve better in life but can't seem to. Very few people are willing to honestly admit that they need to change their own ways/thinking before things will change for them. Most don't even recognise the extent of their perpetual self sabotage.

 

Self mastery through continual self coaching should be the long term goal in my opinion.
As we all have varying personalities, who can possibly know one most intimately other than themselves?
All these mentors and motivators have not created some new found wisdom on human behavior and performance.
The lessons have all been passed down from those wise men and women who have come before them.
They are simply presenting it in a different way.

Like Rolf says, the motivation must come from within.

Coaches have their place, but a question asked could be - What skills does this coach possess which I don’t already have? And this may be the area of focus to improve upon in future.

 

I think if your a person who really wants to achieve life goals then a Life Coach is a good investment until you pi k yourself up so to speak.

But you need a good Life Coach better a Psychologist that specialises or has a interest in motivational psychology and resilience training

Because its like having a fitness personal trainer only every month you present to yiur life coach the goals you want to achieve etc

Nowadays of course you can get a life coach from Skype

 

I don't know about a life coach but it's good to know there are still a few fans of Jim Rohn around . He was a very accomplished public speaker and communicator.

I enjoy some of his talks .

 

I am probaly going to book a skype session weekly with a Life coach either Gary Vaynerchuk or that Andrew guy in the USA

 

Hey. Lyn is not a life coach. She is a person I speak to once a month about stuff I am trying to achieve and how I am going. It is mostly about business but if I have a personal issue I use her as a sounding board.

I do the same with clients in a way - if figured it was hypocrtytical to not do it myself.

And it is good. She listens mostly and only one of five sessions you get something that changes you - but that is worth it.

My wife also gets a mentor from her work (who is outside of her work) and she likes the process.

 

And Lyn is not “motivational” - that stuff is rubbish. She does not create ideas or set any of my goals or strategies.

Verbalising your thoughts coherently to another person and being called out on weak behaviour is important. The mere act of articulating thoughts to another person whose only job is to listen to them makes your internal positions clearer. And that person you choose (I choose) must be seperate from every aspect of your life and must be paid.

This stuff is not like a personal trainer in a gym yelling “come on”.

When my wife was given a mentor she thought her employer considered her weak. She now has a big 4 managing partner (who is not connected to her employer) and she loves it.

Lyn is part of my subscription to The Executive Connection and the professional development I get from that has made me a better advisor and a better person.

If you get a weak “coach” they will try and develop your strategies and motivate you. That is a short term game and will not work.