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Dysfunctional family members

Discussion in 'Living Room' started by Lizzie, 11th Oct, 2016.

  1. Lizzie

    Lizzie Well-Known Member

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    I am sure every family has one - but - OMG - they are so frustrating, self destructive and antagonistic ... but apparently everyone else is the problem!
     
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  2. EN710

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    Yeah... I'm lucky in a way that I pretty much have no family members in Australia, not one I personally know anyway. So no need to deal with them at all. Is ignoring them an option for you?
     
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  3. Jess Peletier

    Jess Peletier Mortgage Broker - Australia Wide Business Member

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    Sounds like my 13 year old *sigh*.
     
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    My sister is a pleasant person, she moved away to WA to get away from us all because she hates us. Now a couple years down the track she get the ****s up with us because none of us go to visit her. One of her many great personality traits
     
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    My sister only calls when she wants something. Sigh.

    I lived overseas for 4 years and the only time she called me was to ask for a block of land so that she could build herself a house....
     
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    We have had some serious problems over the years which we were originally very embarrassed about.
    As we have talked to others when they hear about our troubles nearly everyone else shares a problem they have.
    Someone said to me 'If we could all meet and put our problems in a pile, and then choose to pick up one from the pile, most of us would pick up the problem we started with." I've come to agree with that..
     
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  7. Peter_Tersteeg

    Peter_Tersteeg Finance broker and strategist Business Member

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    One family member? That's nothing.

    My maternal grandparents had 5 daughters. They all have their own on set of disorders, my mother included. Since my grandparents passed away they barely talk to each other and if they do it's a conversation loaded with passive-aggressive BS, or they're away with the 'angels'. It'd make a great spectator sport if it wasn't so sad.

    Fortunately it doesn't appear to be hereditary. All the cousins get along famously.
     
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  8. Lizzie

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    My family are all overseas too - just back from a visit. Sadly, this one immediate family member makes any en-masse get together so awkward as they are really judgemental, but take offence at most everything ... to not invite them is not an option ... sigh

    But reading others stories - sounds like I scored the good barrel
     
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    My dear old Mother used to quote Robert Owen, who said (when queer meant strange and not what it does today): "All the world is queer save thee and me, and even thou art a little queer."
     
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    Once in a while, it's ok then ;) My immediate family are good in general so I am certainly kind of lucky, and I tend not to meet extended family (most of them are ok). It is just tiring to be there for a long time (all the personal questions etc) hence why I don't visit very often.
     
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    Well - this one's in their 50's and throws 13yr old tantrums!
     
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    Scott No Mates Well-Known Member

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    All too familiar, +1 now realises this is the case. At least she sold up and didn't tell us so we have no idea where she's moved.
     
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  13. Dan Donoghue

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    I just want to love everyone equally and unquestioningly but jeezuz some of them make it so damn hard!!! :).

    I have however come to realise I am the ONLY variable that is within my control so now I employ a tact my mother taught me. If anything starts just step back and think to yourself "It's not my circus, it's not my monkeys" :).
     
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    I have just contacted my sister after over 10 years, she and I were both going through heavy personal problems when we stopped contact. As time goes by it becomes harder to pick up the phone, however after much nudging from my family we are now talking and haven't stopped as there is so much to catch up on.

    B cried as the end of our last conversation and said she was feeling very low as her long time companion was very ill and she felt she had no family support [her only child committed suicide] I am so glad I listened to my inner feelings and got in touch.
     
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    Dysfunctional family members

    I could write a book on the subject, or Two, or Three.Dysfunctional Family Members for Dummies.
     
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    I have 4 siblings and we are all dysfunctional to some extent (some worse than others). I am more or less in contact with 3 of them but not one. It's awkward.
     
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    Me too. I'm the only one in my family here...
     
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  18. Peter_Tersteeg

    Peter_Tersteeg Finance broker and strategist Business Member

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    Just saw this meme on Facebook and felt it was very inappropriate... :eek:
     

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  19. Gockie

    Gockie I'm an ISTP-A female, so I might be a bit quirky! Premium Member

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    Whoops lol
     
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    Scary :eek: