Does it make me an evil person?

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  1. Lizzie

    Lizzie Well-Known Member

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    Perhaps I should explain further ... she left hubby for another man but still expected him to pay "all" expenses relating to her and the kids - she also expected him to pine after her forevermore.

    When he found someone else (me) - and I explained to him that he didn't have to pay her expenses other than child support (so he stopped) ... anyhow ... she turned into a nasty, manipulative, undermining and money grubbing person who, if you'd met, would think was the nicest person (very two faced).

    So, please let me have a little smugness - and no - it's not cancer
     
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  2. Marg4000

    Marg4000 Well-Known Member

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    Why are you still wasting your time and energy thinking about this person?

    Let it go ..... for your sake, not hers.
    Marg
     
    Marg4000, 22nd Jul, 2018
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  3. Scott No Mates

    Scott No Mates Well-Known Member

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    That sounds vaguely familiar ;)


    @Lizzie is a FB stalker :p
     
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    geoffw Moderator Staff Member

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    I wonder Y?

     
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  5. Lizzie

    Lizzie Well-Known Member

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    I generally don't - but it was a big slab of my life. Simply a friend of a friend posted a photo of her on their FB page that came up in my feed.

    Now, off to play boardgames with the kids on a Sunday afternoon xx
     
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  6. wylie

    wylie Moderator Staff Member

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    I say you are normal, not evil. I reckon most people would compare (just as many people do at school reunions).

    They may not admit it, but I reckon it is fairly normal.

    And when someone has caused you years of grief, that little sliver of enjoyment is enhanced.
     
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  7. MTR

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    Thinking it is one thing, saying it out aloud is another.

    Slap on the wrist with a feather

    MTR:)
     
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  8. Scott No Mates

    Scott No Mates Well-Known Member

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    Gees you're harsh. o_O
     
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    The thing is, when you ask a forum ‘am I evil?’, you will get answers that you may not agree with!
     
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  10. Lizzie

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    Never an issue - live by the policy "don't ask the question you might not like the answer to".

    Simply thought some might not know the leadup and hence cut a little slack - it's not the action (or original comment) but the reaction that speaks volumes about where people are coming from. We all have our own perspective, borne out our own past experiences.
     
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    If her greying and balding and weight gain is a result of you poisoning her or psychologically abusing her etc... then that makes you evil. Otherwise just karma and you are allowed to enjoy karma.
     
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  12. Lizzie

    Lizzie Well-Known Member

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    100% karma ... although think karma came back to bite me for having a gloat moment as teen whipped my backside at Monopoly ... but I beat her at "bananagrams" :) ... although we play with the scrabble tiles because I'm to stingy to pay extra for the actual game

    Bananagrams - Wikipedia
     
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    If my ex met someone else who told him to stop supporting his kids other than the bare minimum I think I'd go a little crazy too. Lol that's my excuse for insanity.
     
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    Well this thread certainly backfired o_O
     
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    Again - more background - we had the kids 50% of the time, and paid for everything while in our care - new fella moved in with her, both worked and earning more than our household did - child support, in those days, was calculated on income from two years previous (when she didn't work) so hubby was paying a bucket load as the "minimum". She got the house - he got his super that he couldn't touch.

    Kids certainly didn't do without - but I did resent when she demanded he pay the insurance on her brand new car and refund her for the mother's day presents, just after they returned from a holiday in Fiji
     
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    spludgey Well-Known Member

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    "Pics or it didn't happen!" ;)

    Also go easy on going grey and balding, I happen to think that I'm looking more and more distinguished!
     
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  17. Gockie

    Gockie Life is good ☺️ Premium Member

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    I don't think stingy.
    People would be stupid to buy this specific game. At least 75% of households with kids aged between 5 to 18 will have scrabble tiles....
     
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  18. Lizzie

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    One positive - started back at the gym today - my goodness I'm unfit!
     
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  19. wylie

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    For those who've not met Lizzie, she is one very attractive lady, whip smart, kind hearted... and some of these assumptions about her motives have missed the mark.

    I enjoy the feeling when I'm looking good and run into an old flame or old friend, just as much as I don't enjoy the feeling when I look like the cat has dragged me through a gorse bush backwards - and run into an old flame or old friend. I think it is just human nature.
     
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  20. Lizzie

    Lizzie Well-Known Member

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    Aw shucks - I'll forward you my money laundered bribe in it's usual brown paper bag ;)
     
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