It’s important for your son to remember that their first home does not have to be their “perfect” home. We lived in our first home for four years before moving on to something bigger and better (still living here). Noosa and Noosaville are expensive areas for real estate. Despite frequently publicised cases of women in their 40s and 50s having kids relatively easily, the reality is that achieving pregnancy after mid-late 30s is increasingly difficult. And it’s not just getting pregnant. Despite falling pregnant quite easily, recurrent miscarriages delayed the start of our family by nearly three years.
Every home I bought with my wife was a “dream” home. Why? Because she shared it with me. BTW, each new dream home for us just happen to be better than the last. Each was a stepping stone to the next.
I had my one and only at 34 and honestly wouldn't want to leave it any later. A friend had her whoops last at 48 and need to consider that she'll be nearly 70 by the time it finishes school. There's is also the potential of not falling pregnant straight away as can take years for some ... or that there might be other issues ... and, is ity possible she can take the 12 months paid maternity leave and go back to work, being government?
Home now after having dinner with my eldest daughter, (34) with 2 kids, she informed me that her brother who is the youngest of my 3 children at (30) had also asked her for advice regarding their situation. From this I gather it is really troubling him. He is not one to open up very often. Keeps his cards very close to his chest so to speak. Funnily enough she thinks that what he and his wife previously agreed upon should hold up. You can't change the rules when you like, she said. My daughter also said, before 40 fine, after no go...... I'm not so sure.
Alright, someone tell me!!! what happens to men at 47 according to the graph!!! now im scared, do my bits just fall off!?
Sorry Lizzie, but I find that absurd to have a child at that age. To me that is a completely selfish act. How physically, do they perceive to keep up with an active child? The other thing that amuses me is how do you have a "Whoops" moment at 48? Surely they have heard of contraception. The phrase " No brains, and happy without them" springs to mind.
Very true that Noosa and surrounding areas command high prices. My son is not aiming for this home to be their dream home, merely a stepping stone. What he is grappling with is that he made a promise. To some this may not mean much; but to him it is everything. I understand that women in their late 30's are more susceptible to complications regarding childbirth, but in saying that, I also feel that a promise is a promise, otherwise why speak.
yep im in that category too, 48 is way too old to be having kids, a completely selfish move, its not all about what you want, kids arent toys or the latest gadget and dont get me started on the risk of the baby having issues (not having a go at you lizze!)
@TMNT I know a couple who have 3 kids and are barely making ends meet. Their house is a complete disaster zone, they seldom have energy for the three kids who look semi neglected. And now she's pregnant on her fourth. The definition of utter selfishness and irresponsibility imo.
How old are they? Being able to afford children, which they obviously are having problems with is not the only consideration. Once again " no brains and happy without them" springs to mind.
I think 5,3 and 1 or thereabouts. Now that I have a little one who loves to play and get attention, it really infuriates me seeing how they have very little time for their kids and decide to have yet another one. And I told them so. I don't think ill get invited back over to their place any time soon.
IMHO Totally plausible - according to the chart earlier in this thread, fertility rate would be somewhere off the chart in negative territory - so no need to consider contraceptives. The Y-man
I know everyone is different in this respect and I acknowledge this but as a receiver of generational inheritance myself I can vouch for how it has not only helped my life but also that of my children earlier. If you are in a position to help to some degree financially, your children, whilst you're still alive and can have an input as to where their inheritance is directed, and can see it going to be able to help them now, would you rather this or wait until you had passed away and aren't around to enjoy seeing the joy your wealth has created? I only say this as it has totally changed my view and life by having this happen to myself. My grandfather spread his wealth (within reason) to each of us grandchildren 20 years before he passed away, he stipulated that it was to go towards property and it helped each of his grandchildren immensely. When he did pass away he split the balance of his estate over 2 generations (His children and us grandchildren - I will be forever thankful and grateful!) which has financially accelerated not only my life but has set up the life of his great grandchildren and their generation. Maybe worth considering.
Ah - well - definitely intelligent - definitely a whoops - and in no way expected or planned (already had two older children) ... oddly enough a woman's fertility increases significantly just around menopause but the chances of an "unhealthy" child is very high. And, for various reasons, contraception doesn't always work
It's not just childbirth complications - fertility drops off significantly - the chance of downs syndrome, cerebral palsy or other serious genetic "misalignment's" are very dramatically higher - also remember that he will much older trying to keep up with an active young'un Bear in mind - there is never the right time to pause and have children ... always ... more money, better house, better job etc
