Children come Adults question again......

Is there anything wrong wanting your children to marry financially secure people, what if they are wealthy ?..... is it a crime to want this or be happy about this?

Before anyone jumps on their high horses I understand there is more to life than money.

I just happened to mention to a close g/friend that my daughter's partner is relatively wealthy and a good guy? She did not like this at all, and promptly gave me a huge lecture on what are the most important things in life, and ended with "the best things in life are free".
I wore it, but .... what is wrong with this? Really

MTR

 

What???? How so???

 

It is natural that you want the best for your kids.

A wealthy great guy > a poor great guy

A wealthy nasty guy < a poor great guy

It is not good to make the choice for your child, or to interfere so much in your child's choice that the child chooses a life partner to please their parents.

 

Do got want your son/daughter marrying someone of significantly lesser status?

That said, they need to be in the same headspace. No point being/getting a gold digger as it is destructive to the relationship.

 

"I would suggest that all men insist upon a pre-nup and marry based on looks and sexual vigor. And just like in the stock market, once there is a drop in “performance” I’d suggest dropping your current holdings and find new assets.” – Patrick B.

 

Is he wealthy from his own efforts or because of his family. Makes a huge difference.

 

I definitely wouldn't want my daughter marrying someone who has less financial security than her. I see nothing wrong with wanting to marry someone financially secure.

 

Lol

 

Yes, still holds day job but also operates small business, owns properties and also plays high level sports. I believe purchased first property at 21.
Dont believe any help from parents?

 

Good luck to her - dont worry about what other people think

 

Sounds like a keeper, id turn for him!

 

If he's a nice guy then you should be happy for her. Your "friend" sounds jealous. Look at how he made his money too. Small business and property investing shows character

 

For my daughter, all suitors had to show their personal financial statements (personal balance sheet, personal P&L, ...) before they could get a foot-in-door.

It worked - she married an accountant .

For my son, I just said "Go for it!!!".

Not advice and not all true.

 

Yes, I think it is wrong to encourage someone, especially your own children, to marry someone that is rich. It is also wrong to want it yourself but not express it to the children in my opinion.

 

I used to say to my single female friends that when they look for their next boyfriend they should stick with the rich guys and the typical response was "but rich guys are pricks!". My response to that was "but so are poor ones, so you might as well have a rich ******* as a boyfriend than a poor one".

 

Nothing wrong with it at all.. did you mention the wealthy bit before the good guy bit? Sounds like your friend has child-partner envy..

 

Approved, I'd like similar for my daughter, love is not enough in this world.
Both brains and brawn are essential to pass the test.
Not some nerdy/smart wimp or slob.
And not a dumb but aesthetically pleasing and capable physique only.

 

yes I did mention wealthy before the good guy? perhaps that was what did it.

 

Ha... .. What if she falls in love with Mr Average, perhaps working as a public servant, no real ambition but treats your daughter like a queen??? What then?? curious