Burn out or aging, life balance, pacing oneself have these been issues for you.

i'm having to really monitor more self care,, life balance, rest, relaxation, recovery and what picks up my energy and spirit, as i still try to complete very demanding challenges this year. For decades I've had to push myself ridiculously hard in extremely difficult challenges way more demanding than normal stress levels . i had Drs telling me decades ago that i was deeply burnt out and I needed urgently a few years of low stress but that never happened quite the opposite. Some people have caring, kind, supportiv,e interested, validating, family members that help them through tough times too. Its known those people do better but not everyone is lucky enough to have that. In fact i've had to be the one doing very heavy caretaking of others for years on end as well as other very high pressures on me. its well documented the toll of burn out, heavy caretaking or other pressures ongoingly.
Have others also found they went through a time when they couldnt just push themselves in tough challenges like they once could, but that they had to make more conscious regular efforts to monitor themselves and take time out or find better self care and life balance, nature, hobbies relaxation, socialising, rest, down time, or the very demanding challenges and demands they faced drained them too much and brought them down ?

 

I can certainly relate to this, reading this whilst sitting in a pathology for a 2-hr test. The is the third test after a CT scan and blood test last week.

Suppose one only needs to reach a point where they decide enough is enough. 18 years ago I migrated to Oz from a high- pressure job, as I saw the importance of my health (physical and mental), to my family, friends and myself. Life is short and it's not really worth it. So new life without live-in maid, flash car, fine dining, pretty dresses, party, and I was happy. Most importantly, I have peace with myself and more confident. The downside is my body and eyes have aged faster than what it should be....

Have a chat with yourself, and see what you want to achieve in your remaining years. Bless you!

 

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Fr om the Australian sun because you have being laying on a beach?

 

I learned that if it's urgent because of something that someone else neglected to do and now it's my problem, no it's not. Had they passed the issue across when it was a non-issue, it could have been resolved.

 

Driving past the local Salvo's hall the other Day, the sign offered the following words of wisdom:

"We are not a product of our circumstances, we are a product of our decisions".

I thought it very apt.

 

thank you for all the very supportive relevant words.
i hear you wylie and people say similar but there are certain very serious illnesses or health conditions where giving the support is vital lifesaving and not optional so its been high pressure.
I once heard it said
we are meant to be human be ings not human doings. We need to just 'be' more often.

in yoga they get you to do a stretch and then breath and recover not just push push push.

 

Moving to the GC was part of my anti-burnout plan and it's worked, I mean if I was any more relaxed I would probably slip into a coma .

I have a great work life balance now also. I never used to in my previous workplaces but to be honest I don't think I could work like I used to anymore, the hours, the lack of appreciation, the conference calls at 3am..... nope, I just couldn't do it now.

I also no longer take on other peoples drama, another anti burnout tactic . This is a big one, other peoples drama has a way of sitting in your life for ages if you let it.

The cemeteries are full of people who worked harder than they should have and didn't look after themselves and their stress levels properly..... they are just as dead as everyone else in there .

 

I have been through 4 CEOs and a number of deputies in my company. They were all considered indispensable and how would the company survive without their leadership?

After observing this over 2 decades, my lessons are :

- after a couple of years the new staff don't even know these people. Once one of them came back and visited us. The new receptionist asked may I have your name please

- the company has been doing better after every one of them. The new one s job was to make sure this happened. That's why they were paid millions

- after the grand farewell, the next big gift you might receive from your company if you were important and made enough impact while on your job, a wreath at your funeral