11 ways to be unremarkably average

I prefer giving back to the community and helping out a mate is a good thing. All the fancy job title in the world means nothing to me. I guess for myself, I have always been the type that had to work harder than everyone else because of the fact that I have never been the type that was gifted in any specific area.

 

I was just reading this article: http://m.heraldsun.com.au/business/...ise-29-in-august/story-fni0xqe4-1227563178038

Even my home loan isn't average.

 

That comic pretty much sums up 90% of the population. I love working in an office though.

 

Me too. Well 'like' is a better word.
Wouldn't mind working on the beach with a laptop - but I wouldn't get any work done.

 

I think everyone must choose their own path. It is easy to think that the bulk of the populace are drones in a number of spheres- property, financial,artistic, fashion, religion or whatever. Exclusivity does not necessarily transfer into "right", "success" or "better". Whilst I agree in the pursuit of excellence I am also all too aware of human frailty, inequity and just general bad luck. Sometimes people will fail due to matters entirely outside of their control. No amount of Tim Robbins seminars will change that. Tell a kid in a Calcutta slum that the reason he is there is because of his poor attitude to success. That doesn't ring true with me.

I liked the cartoon/comic and I agree with many of the points but I would like to explore number 10- don't stand out from the crowd. Why is this a failing? I don't believe it is necessary to stand out or seek the approval of others in your ventures. There are many ways to stand out -but often for the wrong reasons. By seeking success with reference to others is ultimately perhaps doomed to fail. The others- and their approval/thoughts are out of your control. There will always be others better (and worse) than you.
The push to excel I agree with- but that must be measured as against your own efforts and self.

I'm alright with being boring and normal to the rest of the world. I'll just do my own thing I suppose.

 

I have found a lot more relief from understanding the impermanence of our world and the nature of our thoughts and how they can "imprison" us in false belief

Watching the way my worrying thoughts fade away like water into steam is one of the greatest discoveries I have ever witnessed

Not being bothered by anything anymore no matter what stage of your life your at would have to be one of the greatest triumphs but so much of the world would never really truly understand this and will no doubt take all their imaginary worries to their graves with them.

My point of this ramble is that if you have no attachment to your worries or troubles then you will always live in peace no matter where you are or what is happening in your life, but getting to this stage requires a type of sacrifice no money or external hand can give to you and most would never want to let go of this weight that holds them down

Many people die at 25 but are buried at 70

 

Thanks for the input cu@thetop . My take on standing out from the crowd was that you don't need to settle for less to keep those around you comfortable. However I see where you are coming from.

 

Great post @E.T ...certainly something to ponder for me. How did you achieve non attachment?

 

You mention detaching yourself from worrying multiple times in your post.
What does this have to do with being a high achiever?
It's still better to live a worry less life as a high achiever than a worry less life of a low achiever.

 

http://www.smh.com.au/national/educ...chievers-twenty-years-on-20151005-gk21ue.html

Thought this was an interesting article about the people that received a perfect or near perfect HSC mark from the the class of 1995 and seeing how they are today.

 

Good one. A very positive news story, and these individuals have really gone on to great things. Kudos.

 

And you can't actually see the screen which is a bit counter productive.

 

Live the life you choose!

There is a difference between choice and decision. Many DECIDE to live a life based on expectations, external influences, self doubts, fear. These are limiting beliefs. Living a life you choose is based on absolute nothingness as a starting point. Why choose it? Just because.

I find happiness is there when you strive/live a life you have chosen, free of reason or fear. Now that can be building multi-billion dollar businesses, or baking a cake. There is no right or wrong. Nobody should tell you your ambitions are too large or too small. Similarly we shouldn't judge others ambitions.

Most Australians are relatively wealthy. However I doubt we compare ourselves to villages in Peru. I thought I was doing well, until I started meeting a lot of under 40's who make $500k+ and talk about $3M+ properties the way I talk about my places in St Marys. Fortunately success encompasses a lot more than just finances, though I admit I can get caught up on my deficit in the financial department at times.

 

Really agree with this - there is no right or wrong, whatever makes you happy. We should not judge what makes others happy even when it is something we would never do ourselves.

 

I agree.
I sometimes wonder whether we're the ones that have it the wrong way around. We try so hard to "better" ourselves, yet people in third world countries are on average much happier than we are.

 

Yes I understand that, but the reason why people are unhappy is because they attach themselves to the outcome of a situation or dream wether they realise it or not,

There is nothing wrong with going out and building masse of wealth but it's one thing being overwhelmed by your problems and another to simply just observe them

 

As long as that happiness is not against the law or immoral...